Most humans expend their energy on avoiding things they don’t want in their lives, instead of creating what they do want.
This realization has been the seed of a deeper inquiry for me.
What is the point of this article? I have been asking myself this question. As this idea, this concept, this thought-form flows through me, I ask, “What am I intending to communicate?” And of what use is it to the reader? I have been so fascinated by why humans do what they do, and how these subtle shifts in the way we perceive our reality can alleviate vast amounts of suffering and stress.
This article exists merely to share other perspectives on the nature of creating—and for those who feel resonance with these words, perhaps it helps them gain clarity in some way.
The underlying question I pose in my work is this:
Would it make sense for us, as a species, to learn more effective and harmonious ways of creating our shared reality?
Said another way, can we alleviate more of our suffering and live in more expanded states by becoming better at creating?
To me, as I see it, this is important to our future on and of this planet. What I intend to point out in this article is that we are being largely ineffective at reaching this goal as a culture: alleviating suffering. Sure, there are a few who have reached great heights, but we have not become masters at creating as a collective species. There is a deep longing for expansion into our power that I perceive to be stirring within so many people in these times—a longing to be aligned in our power, in the Truth. This awakening of knowing that we are here to experience more vibrance, love, and artistic expression—but how?
Let’s deepen into this a bit.
Most humans expend most of their energy on avoiding things they don’t want in their lives, instead of creating what they do want. We have built an entire unconscious operating principle that is designed to protect and mitigate risk—attempting to create space from undesirable outcomes and results. If we could just become aware of this and be in inquiry as to whether or not there is a more effective way of being, that in and of itself would be a catalyst for change.
Just directing the light of our inner awareness at our thought-forms and beliefs would begin this transformation. There is an easier, much more fulfilling way to live and play this game of life, and I will work to best articulate it in the rest of this article.
To begin, let me first presence this idea: 85% of what most of us in the Western world hear as little children growing up consists of either what not to do, or how bad we are if we do it. There was a study cited in a book by Robert Fritz from years back, where 3- and 4-year-old children had tape recorders strapped to them. Upon compiling the data from the recordings, researchers found that a sizable portion of what children hear from their parents and caretakers was about avoidance and prevention of situations that may have been harmful. Of course, being a father myself, I understand that the “come from” is to ensure the safety and survival of my offspring—so this makes sense to me. But what about the cost?
In this early phase of development, children (and of course we were that too at some point) are like sponges and don’t possess the faculties to ward off this faulty programming. Thus, the operating system takes hold. Beliefs and ego structure are developed.
While this protective mechanism is useful in some ways—of course, playing in the road would not have aided in our survival in earlier years—I pose the question:
What are the implications of this installed software operating in the background of our lives as adults?
Our programming, our conditioning—it’s so subtle that most cannot even sense the impact it has on their individual realities. Without knowing, we have created entire lives and ways of being with a tendency toward avoidance of what we don’t want.
And I will tell you: when it comes to creating a vision for your life, most will stifle and contract that idea as well. From the perspective of the intellectual mind, it goes back into the file cabinets and records of past successes and failures and calculates a prediction based on its mathematical algorithms—and projects that ideal into the future. Said another way:
“ Most of us create and envision the future based on what we think we can get, but not necessarily what we truly want.
Furthermore, a lot of the initial thought processes that begin to transpire as one contemplates a vision are about everything they don’t want and what they desire to avoid.
What if what quantum physics says is true—that an unlimited number of potential realities exist? How limiting to think that, when designing our life, we pull from all of the limitation and avoidance that has been deeply ingrained in us from the beginning. In the transformational coaching work I have been doing with clients over the years, unearthing a deep purpose and mission is very revealing of what belief systems need to be changed. This is the job of a powerful coach: to hold the mirror for you, to see the reflection of greatness that is already you.
To create and open up the pathways of possibility.
The antidote to limitation: Presence.
As you contemplate what else you desire to create and experience—if it were truly possible to play in the space of pure potential for your life—where does your mind go? Bring presence to the thoughts and the stories that arise. If and when limitation arises and says, Here are the ways it is NOT POSSIBLE to create that, counter it consciously with all of the ways it IS possible to create—and begin moving with inspiration.
The Bible says that God shaped man in Its image, and the essence of God was that of a Creator. And as you are formed in the likeness of It, so art thou made to be a creator. Rest in your remembering, blessed Soul.
With love,
Mr. Haines
P.S. If these words inspired something within you, or you are feeling a desire to expand in your life, I invite you to be bold and follow that subtle whisper. Here is a link to my work and how to book a call.
